Yep it’s that time of the week again, Monday morning.
Time for some reflection on the weekend. Hands up those of us who get stressed at the weekend. Am I the only one?
Weekends are supposed to be for relaxing and shedding the stress of the previous week. This weekend has been anything but relaxing for me. I’m not going to go into the details of what went on; nothing out of the ordinary really. What is important is what happened to me.
At first I found myself getting what I thought was depressed; but when I looked again I found that it wasn’t depression it was anger I was feeling. I wasn’t angry at the people around me, though my daughter did press a few buttons for me from time to time; it was more anger directed at myself.
So Monday morning this week is a time for reflection. A time to ask myself, “Why was all this anger directed inwards? What was it trying to accomplish and what was its root?”.
Needless to say I’m nice and relaxed this morning.
I want to start this week with an idea that many may find difficult to grasp; that, by and large, happiness is a choice.
I’m following on from a posting on Six Degrees Of Inspiration on this topic as it’s something I’ve believed myself since my mid-thirties. At that time I was living with an ex-girlfriend because he house we’d bought together had so much negative equity we couldn’t sell it, our business had gone bust and we were in serious debt. I was far from happy.
Then I can distinctly recall one morning thinking to myself, “I am not going to put up with feeling depressed anymore”. In that instant of choice my depression lifted.
The reason why I’ve added a caveat “by and large” to my statement above is because whilst I believe it’s a choice to be happy I don’t believe that everyone is in a position to make that choice. Some people (and someone I’m very close to) suffer from clinical depression which is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Do these folks have the luxury of a choice in this matter?
Finally the post on 6doi.net has some excellent quotes and I’m going to take the liberty of reproducing them here;
Happiness is a way station between too little and too much.
Channing Pollock (1880 – 1946)
Happiness is a present attitude… not a future condition.
Happiness is the only good.
The time to be happy is now.
The place to be happy is here.
The way to be happy is to make others so.
Robert G. Ingersoll (1833 – 1899)
All these seem to be saying to me that happiness is Now!
I love Monday mornings! Honest, I do!
I used to listen to my colleagues at work complaining about Monday morning, how the weekend was over and there was another week of work ahead before the next one. Personally I love to look forward to what I’m going to achieve in the week ahead, the goals I’m going to accomplish and the opportunities the week will present.
Yes, Monday mornings for me are a great time for invigoration and renewal. After all I can’t do anything about the fact that I’ve 5 days work before the next weekend so I might as well accept the fact and get stuck in.