One of my major stressors is the gap between who or what I think I am and how I then behave.

For example I think I’m a good enough parent; but then have occasion to yell at my daughter then I get stressed. Or if I think I’m a caring husband and then have an argument with my wife I get stressed.

So I have to realize that I can be the one thing (good parent, caring husband) and still do the other thing.